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Magic Words Named a Top 10 Psychology Book of 2016 by Blinkist! – Help Me Share!

What a nice Christmas surprise!

Especially because the book came out over two years ago. (Shhhh….)

Here’s what I really want for Christmas – a world with more human connection and understanding.

Okay, so you can’t give that to me, but maybe together, we can make a dent.

Share this top 10 list with your friends. ALL of the books on this list will create more human connection and understanding IF people actually read them. So share it everywhere.

You can use the share links to the left.

OR, you can visit: and use their share links.top10That’s what the share links look like. They are small circles with different logos inside. It takes all of 5 seconds to share and knowledge is the best Christmas gift you can give.

Thank you for being the best readers an author could ask for! And have an amazing holiday season! I’ve got some exciting things planned for you in 2017! Can’t wait.


How to Be Confident Without Being Cocky


“Where do you see yourself in five years?” asked the interviewer.

“I’ll have your job in three,” replied the millennial applicant.

Confidence is a good thing, but this wasn’t confidence. It was arrogance.

This is a true story I heard from an attendee of one of my leadership seminars (The Highly Connected Leader: Human Connection Strategies for Busy Bosses)

Needless to say, he didn’t get the job. In fact, the interview ended right there. “Thank you very much. Don’t call us, we’ll call you.”

This is a balance so many people struggle with – How can you have confidence without being seen as cocky or arrogant? Continue reading

A Lucky Break for Trump that No One is Talking About

Without this Weird Law, Trump Would Have Lost the Election Bigly


The 2016 presidential election was much closer than most people think.

Trump won by 74 electoral votes, which seems like a lot, but the entire election actually came down to an outdated law regarding how the ballots are printed. Just a quick warning, the numbers I’m about to share with you are a bit shocking.

There were six states with less than a 2% margin of victory. Alphabetically they are:

State Electoral Votes Margin of Victory Who Won?
Florida 29 1.3% Trump
Michigan 16 0.3% Trump
Minnesota 10 1.5% Clinton
New Hampshire 4 0.4% Clinton
Pennsylvania 20 1.2% Trump
Wisconsin 10 0.8% Trump


Clinton got 14 electoral votes by winning close races. Trump got 75.

If, for some reason, these six states were to flip their results by just 2%, then Hillary would have won by a score of 293 electoral votes to Trump’s 245. That’s the entire election right there. It all comes down to less than 2% of the vote in six states. Just a little nudge one way or the other.

What could have made a 2% difference? Continue reading

The #1 Lesson to Learn from Professional Magicians


Magicians “get it”.

I’m not just saying that because I used to be one. I really mean it.

There is a skill they have mastered that is lacking in almost every other industry.

Which skill? Sleight of hand? Misdirection? Telling corny jokes? Over-the-top dramatic gestures?

No, no, no, and definitely no.

Those skills have never served me in the “real world”. (I’m not even sure if “telling corny jokes” can be classified as a skill, but if it is, magicians have that market cornered.) The skill that HAS served me well is a skill I picked up by accident while studying the art of illusion.

The image above is from the instructions to a very famous magic trick (the one David Blaine used to make himself levitate on his 1997 breakout television special, Street Magic). It contains a key phrase that is beat into the head of every young magician. It’s the phrase, “watch your angles”. I’ve seen it in magic books and magic trick instruction manuals dozens, if not hundreds of times. But what could these words possibly mean for you, a “normal person”? Continue reading